In light of this being our anniversary week, I hope you will forgive me for not posting something yesterday, and I hope you might indulge me today as I repost something I blogged a little while back for my sweetheart (as you will see by the “info” given). We celebrate 19 years this week, and I am more in love today than I’ve ever been! 😉
We sat in the empty house, the boys away for the evening. He sat at the computer playing chess. I sat in a chair opposite him, reading on my Kindle. He said, “Ya know, this is what old people do. This (silence) is what it sounds like to get old. … What are we gonna do when little bit goes off to college?” I said to him, “Cry…..Cry a lot.”
This started me thinking…
We’ve been together for over 22 years now…8,079 days of my life.
We’ve been married for 18 1/2 of those…over half of my lifetime.
We’ve lived in 2 states and, together, visited 10.
We’ve worked at 5 churches and gone to 2 colleges.
We have 2 sons, numerous “spiritual kids” and no daughters or grandkids.
We are both Southern born and bred, in 2 (technically 3) different states,
and we’re both very proud of it!
I love you more today than that first day I met you,
and even more than the day I said, “I do.”
Yet, I love you less today than I will love you tomorrow or even this time next year.
In a world where the rings come off too quickly, and the marriage vows become negotiable, I have decided our love is here to stay, and even if you wanted, you couldn’t get rid of me without a fight.
This love we have was birthed in wonder and refined in distance and time. All those years we said, “hello” each day, but only held hands once a week, deepened our commitments rather than making them shallow. This love we share has stood the test of time, and even though, I know that test will be retaken again and again during this lifetime, I believe we will remain true. For I don’t belong to you, and you don’t belong to me. We belong to the One who holds this thing together. He is the only One who will see us through.
So, I gladly look to tomorrow and cherish our yesterdays. I hold onto the present and love like it’s only the beginning. I treasure our times together and laugh at our silly mishaps. I glance over your failings and pray you’ll do the same as we reach together, hand over hand, to move beyond what could destroy and stretch our hearts toward the One who would restructure what could have been lost.
Love is not a feeling. It cannot be bought or borrowed or even stolen. Love is a choice that we each choose to uphold and to protect. Love is a choice that we can choose to embrace when we look past our own selfish ways and desires. Love must be cultivated, cherished and cared for. Love must be allowed to bloom.
Blooms do not happen instantaneously. Growth does not happen overnight. Love takes years of tenacity in trials, forgiveness of flaws, blindness to annoyances, perseverance with the little things that really matter. Love doesn’t fail when it is the love from the One who created love. Love lasts forever when it is the love of the Father.
So, today, I say, ‘YES.’
Yes, I will choose to love. Yes, I will choose to forgive.
Yes, I will choose to laugh. Yes, I will choose to cherish.
Yes, I will choose to live. Yes, I will choose to treasure.
Yes, I will choose embrace. Yes, I will choose to uphold.
Yes, I will choose to cultivate, nurture and protect this love.
Yes, I will choose you for life, for love, for laughter.
…Yes… I’ll grow old with you.